We share our top tips on what you need to know when you first get engaged.

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Are you just engaged? Congratulations! Soak it up, its a very special moment. Now before you get started on planning the wedding of your dreams, here are some of our expert tips you need to know. Things we know will really help keep you sane & happy during this new experience.

CHOOSE YOUR BRIDESMAIDS CAREFULLY

This is a big decision, so don’t be afraid to take your time. You don’t have to decide right away if you’re just engaged! Depending on how many you’re having, there are three “types” to aim for:

  • An organised friend to help with planning
  • A creative bridesmaid to make you feel inspired
  • A fun bridesmaid who will keep you smiling

Or just have one friend/family member who you think is the one. It's your day. 

YOU CAN'T TAKE EVERYONE'S ADVICE

Don’t feel like you have to ask for everyone’s opinion on every single aspect of your wedding. It is flattering for them to be asked, of course. But the more people you involve with the decision-making process, the more opinions you have to take into account and sometimes the harder it can be to actually decide.

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DON'T DIY THE WHOLE DAY

While it’s a lovely idea, it’s just too much pressure for you, especially if you’re just engaged. Instead, pick just one or two DIY elements and make them amazing. People can get carried away and you don’t want any last minute emergencies or unfinished projects. Your guests will appreciate a couple of personal touches so much more than lots of different ideas thrown together. Plus at The Kent Wedding Centre we have concessions that cover every element of your wedding day planning so let someone else design that DIY style wedding cake, invitations, flowers etc and take the pressure off.

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PICK THE SEASON, THEN THE WEDDING DATE

Before you pick a date to get married, choose your preferred season as this will make it a lot easier for you. Once you’ve picked a season, you can then pick three dates that work for the two of you and both sets of parents. Now you’ve got that flexibility, you can go on to visit some venues!

STAY TRUE

It’s so easy to be inspired by trends or celebrity fashion. But don’t get all encompassed by them unless they reflect your own personal style. It’s all about the two of you and what kind of wedding you both want to have. Right from when you’re just engaged to the big day itself, stay true to who you are. Be inspired, not influenced. 

KEEP YOUR GUESTS IN MIND

While it’s your wedding day, it’s also important to plan your day from the perspective of your guests as well as your own. Make sure the day has a natural flow to it. Don’t leave your guests alone without a drink while you go for your wedding pictures, and make sure you try to spend time with them, even if it’s just for a few minutes. They've made the effort, so make sure they know its appreciated. 

VENUE, FIRST BOOKING

Wedding 101, but needs saying! Make sure you book your ceremony and reception venues before anything else. You’ll be surprised how quickly they fill up and sometimes they can be booked for up to a year in advance. We are based in Hop Farm which is an incredible place for a wedding with, barns, countryside and acres of space for you and your guests to enjoy!

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HOLD THE BOUQUET THE RIGHT WAY

A lot of brides hold their bouquet up against their chest, but this covers your dress, adds bulk to your silhouette and makes you look nervous. The best thing for you to do is hold it with both hands and rest your arms on your hips. If you keep your flowers by your belly button, it makes you look more natural. Top tip!