TIPS FOR THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE (OR GROOM)
It may be the bride's day, but being a mum comes with big-day responsibilities!
The wedding adventure isn't just a big deal for the bride and the groom; it's a big deal for their parents too! Especially for their mothers, who are eager to be there for every single step, whether it's picking out the perfect dress, taste-testing the items that may find their way on the menu, or even choosing the songs the DJ is going to play to get people on the dance floor.
It's easy for the mothers of the bride and the groom to get carried away with every detail, since ultimately, they are proud and excited to shower their children in perfection for the most special day of their lives. But, sometimes the mums can get a little too excited and begin micromanaging every little detail... making decisions without the couple, or even referring to the big day as 'our wedding'!
So we at The Kent Wedding Centre are here to give you our Best Tips for the Mother of the bride (and groom)!
BE THE POINT OF CONTACT
Before guests start bombarding the bride and the groom with handfuls of who, what, where, and whens, take the lead and answer these questions before they travel to the bride. Send out a FAQ list with answers a month or so before the wedding so that everyone is on the same page and can devour all of the must-have details.
GET TO KNOW THE IN-LAWS
There will be a lot of pictures to pose for and wedding budget conversations to be had. So before the deep dive into wedding planning and partying begins, get to know them over a delicious dinner or a bottle of bubbly.
PUT YOUR MONEY WHERE YOUR MOUTH IS
Before the wedding planning starts, be very open and honest with the amount of money you're willing to contribute. That way, the bride and groom can factor this into their overall budget when they are starting to pick and concessions for their wedding.
VOLUNTEER FOR THE NITTY-GRITTY
Offer to be hands on with the dirty work. Do they need someone to help them stuff envelopes? What about put together the welcome bags? How about pack and organiSe boxes for the day of? Make yourself available to help out with some of the less glamorous tasks.
DON'T COMPARE AND CONTRAST
Even if a friend of yours throw the most extravagant wedding for her daughter or you recently saw something gorgeous at another wedding you went too, it doesn't mean that this wedding has to be an over the top show stopper or a party topper. Nobody wants to hear what Susan had at her wedding!
TURN THE CHORES... INTO A PARTY!
If there's a part of the wedding adventure that the bride and the groom are dreading, turn it into a party! Bring a few bottles of champagne and some food spreads and offer to help them dive in and tackle those dreaded wedding to-do list tasks.
BE THE PEACEKEEPER
If this person doesn't talk to that person, be the person who makes sure they all get along and don't get rowdy at the wedding. The last thing the bride needs to experience is Uncle Bryan tossing a shoe at Uncle Tony, who is sitting three tables to the left...
WAIT FOR THE BRIDE AND BRIDESMAIDS TO CHOOSE THEIR DRESS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE YOUR OUTFIT
That way, you can see the colour scheme that the rest of the bridal party is going to wear before selecting your dress. You don't want to stand out too much from the other members of the bridal party — unless the bride and groom want that!
THIS ISN'T A 'WHO IS THE BEST MUM COMPETITION'
Instead of making this a mum verse mum experience, make sure both of you are on the same team. It'll make the bride and groom feel more confident knowing that their mums are standing strong behind them throughout the whole process.
DON'T BE PUSHY
If you can tell the bride and the groom don't like something that you love, let it go. Don't attempt to push them into a decision that they are not comfortable or in love with. At the end of the day, it's most important that they are happy.
If the bride asks your opinion on how something looks — like a potential wedding dress — don't be scared to share your honest opinion. Chances are, she trusts what you say more than anyone else in the room and she's relying on you to bring that honesty front and centre.
CARRY A WEDDING DAY SURVIVAL KIT
Put together a tote bag of items you think the bride, groom, and wedding party may need and keep that close to you during the bridal shower, the rehearsal dinner, and on the day of the wedding. Be sure to add an extra pack of tissues, plasters and even a bag of snacks (just in case!)
ENJOY A SPECIAL MOMENT WITH YOUR CHILD
Through the chaos and the last-minute challenges, make sure to take a couple of minutes with your child and remind them how happy, proud, and excited you are of them. In the end, this is the most special and unforgettable day of their lives. Sometimes even if you forget everything above, all you need to say is 'I love you'.