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groom to do list

Wedding planning is a job designed to be done by two. While lots of grooms are eager to be hands-on, many brides can find it hard to let go and share the load... Then there are the grooms who are less interested in all the details and happy to let their partner take on all the work (we all know one!).

But (in a straight couple) brides don't, and shouldn't, have to do it all. Whatever kind of couple you are and roles you take, a wedding is about two people coming together, so it's important that both of you are involved from beginning. Which is where our list of jobs for the groom comes in! Trust us, the whole experience will be even more fulfilling and exciting if you have planned everything together.

Whether you're more interested in practicalities than aesthetics, or you're looking for ways to show your reluctant-to-let-go other half you can muck-in, these are wedding to-do list tasks that you can take on right now.

It's important not to fall into wedding stereotypes, doing your share of the wedding planning shouldn't be seen as 'helping out'. Expecting to be delegated to or micro-managed is just putting another job on your other half's plate. Grooms these days tend to be motivated to take jobs on themselves (without waiting to be asked!) and weddings are all the better for it! You want to the day to reflect both of you, right?

groom duties to do list

1. Collect Invitation Addresses

In a world of email and Facebook, it's rare that you actually have all your friends' postal addresses. Gather them up by texting around, ask your parents and married friends for their lists the old fashioned way, or use an app like Postable to do the hard work for you. This app is fantastic as you can just copy and paste all of the email addresses into the platform, they send emails to all of the contacts and these contacts fill out their addresses etc! Easy!

2. Book The Honeymoon

The honeymoon is something you can plan together, with one of you taking care of the booking and logistics. There may also be grooms out there who want to plan the lot and surprise their other half at the airport! If you're currently trying to figure out what amazing honeymoon destinations to book in 2018  or who it all works, talk to our experts at Baldwins Travel Group as they know everything about planning that dream romantic getaway.

groom duties to do list

3. Guest's Accommodation Options

Even if your wedding venue offers accommodation, it's good to give guests options of other nearby spots to stay at various price points. Your venue should be able to give you good suggestions, but is also good to do your own research. Visit the nearby hotels, B&B’s and scan for suitable Airbnb’s. If you have a large group staying in one location (hotel or B&B) you may be able to get a significant discount when booking all of them together. Do some investigating!


4. Pick & Book Wedding Music

This one should be made a priority - the most popular wedding bands get booked up early so we recommend locking in your date with your band as you sign on the dotted line with your venue. Same goes for your ceremony music and DJs if you intend to have them. Music is a very personal thing, its a matter of taste - so find a good shortlist of bands that you like and you believe your future bride will like and narrow it down together.

groom to do list


5. Organise the Groomsmen's Suits

This could be as easy as checking that the groomsmen already have a suitable suit - but still, it's another job that has to be done. If suits do need to be bought or rented, book the guys in for suit fittings at a time that works for everyone. You may need to coordinate dads and brothers too. Just don't forget to organise your own wedding day attire while you're at it! It goes without saying that our grooms suit department is one of the most experienced & best in the area, so please do book an appointment with them today and get this one ticked off!

groom to do list


6. Organise Wedding Day Cash Payments

Lots of suppliers will need to be fully or partially paid on the wedding day. If you're paying in cash, have each payment organised in labelled envelopes, ready to hand out. This is one to delegate to your groomsmen on the day - the less likely to be legless one!



7. Research Photographers & Videographers

There is so much choice out there in when it comes to documenting your day, so it's worth spending time browsing the websites and real weddings of wedding photographers and videographers, and sussing out what kind of style is the best fit for you. You can even organise trail photoshoots with the photographers to get a real feel for their work before you book. Check out our photographers and videographers at The Kent Wedding Centre.

groom to do list


8. Plan the Bar

Whether it's ordering the wine (and booking in a tasting!), selecting some craft beers, or coming up with signature cocktails, adding some alternatives to the standard bar offering is a nice way to add some personality to your day. We have the amazing Pretty Little Tea Company at the centre who can bring their mobile prosecco bar along to your reception, giving your guests the chance to ‘pimp their own prosecco’!

groom to do list


9. Write the Thank-You Cards

Writing thank-you cards is a bit of an arduous job after the wedding, when you're ready to leave all the admin of getting married behind you, but it needs to be done. This is often one thing brides (in straight couples) end up doing alone, so start married life as you mean to go on, and sort this one yourself! Designed by Brownings have a huge range of unique cards that will certainly suit any couples taste.